Look how life has turned around | Quarantine Diaries | Stuti Ashok Gupta

Look how life has turned around, plans have flipped upside down, all that circling of meaningless things have paused – now that you stay at home, and wear extra large t-shirts and comfy little shorts – don’t you ever wonder how easy life has become with lesser decisions to make every day? Consumerism that wrapped your life, has it taken a halt too? Now, do you really need that yellow dress that keeps popping on the ad after every two Instagram stories? Somehow, that yellow dress has stopped haunting me and how. Decluttering of unnecessary to-do’s, the never ending meetings that have turned into WhatsApp texts and emails – it has left all of us with so much more time. I picked a painting brush after half a year, and I learnt two new songs to play on Uke – and I have slept overtime guiltlessly and despite being extremely lazy about exercise, I still managed to do 200 crunches today, just somehow. Started my DMAT account after procrastinating for ages, your girl’s gonna learn about Share market now. Isn’t that strangely great? See how much we can achieve when we slow down. But that’s not why I write to you today. I write to remind you to use this time mindfully. To sit down and think about the inconvenient questions and be okay with not knowing the answers. Isn’t this an incredible time to be a perpetual observer of life? You can watch everything from a distance. You can switch off if you must. There’s an ideal reason to avoid going out and yet wait for that one video call with a friend you haven’t caught up with in a while. I ask myself “will I be a different person after 21 days?” And all I hear in reply is “one day at a time, and then we will see” Also, I really want you guys to participate in @amrutamofficial ‘s 21 day art based programme (it’s completely free of cost) and the first activity is mentioned on my story! If you do participate, do not forget to share your story with me! I’d be really happy to see it 🙂 @agnimgupta clicked this picture today, just a couple of minutes after the golden hour was about to end. STAY HOME. BE SAFE. . #quarantine #love #writer #life #thinkingoutloud #stayhome #createathome

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Meeting Krishna Das | Sakshatkar | Stuti Ashok Gupta

Dear readers,

I have thought about writing this a lot, and as I type this out – there are so many hurdles – the first one being, my mother is calling me for dinner and I am very hungry. Hunger after all is a hurdle for anything if you think about it. Depends what are you starving for. I met with bunch of Americans who had come along with Krishna Das [KD], and some of them were my age – we were sitting on the rocks in Mandakini River under the autumn sun, the water was flowing through us, and as we spoke about things, one of them said something remarkful, so I am going to quote her, as it perfectly fits here –

“In India, people’s stomachs are hungry, in America, our souls are hungry”

This observation is just incredible, no? We, Indians, are full of collectivism – families, kins, marriages, legacies, religious beliefs and social ideologies. We prioritise our cultural values – the groups we belong to – more than our individual needs. Mothers would give up anything for their children, and religious men would give up anything for their Gods. Social norms blind us, but faith unites us all. We have so many opportunities to feel associated with something or the other and a sense of belongingness is taken for granted because you can sign up for anything and you will be counted in. You walk outside your home and you know there will be something or someone that will leave you feeling connected.

I cannot comment on what is not primarily experienced by me [read: American Culture], but I can tell you what I have felt through conversations – it looks like a world full of resources, in abundance, with lesser people to share it with. Almost like the feeling of being lost and nobody’s bothering to find you. You’re on your own. There is freedom, but with a sense of loneliness. There is comfort, but lack of humane warmth.

I met Krishna Das [KD], for the first time, last year October [2017]. There is a long story to how I met him and through whom, so I’d write about it some other day [you can drop in a comment if you want me to write another blog about my first meeting with KD].

For now, I can tell you how I felt. It was no less than a dream that he came to my home and spent an entire day, singing with everyone, eating as my mother served and watching my father make jalebis. It was so simple and yet unimaginable, unbelievable and I usually run out of adjectives to describe my experience with him. While last year, I was still pinching myself to know for sure that I wasn’t dreaming, this year, when I met KD, it felt like this is the only real thing that I have experienced in my life – being with him is the closest I have been to hitting the reality [and of course, in a good way]. For the longest time I have tried to decode Ram Dass’s famous quote and also one of his books’ titles: BE HERE BE NOW

I experience that when I am with KD. I experience love – eternal, caught off guard and still secured.

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We all deserve a share of the supreme principle | Stuti Ashok Gupta

We all deserve a share of the supreme principle. What is it after all? Intellects call it connected consciousness, literary scholars name it over soul, religions give it several names of Gods and goddesses – Ishwar, Allah, Jesus – and society weaves them stories in order for them to be passed on from generations to generations, and then we get lost in the stories instead of the messages it carried – we forget about the supreme principle, within which everything springs from, within which everything resides. Supreme principle that defines all of us as one, as a part of one. It is not us and them, us is not fighting them, us is fighting us. Isn’t that cancer? #thinking #tamilnaduView on Instagram https://ift.tt/2ZrFFYA

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Birthday note to self | Stuti Ashok Gupta

Birthday note to self: We all want to be a huge tree, branch out and show off our fruits and flowers – but most often we neglect the roots. They are hidden, deeply buried, but they hold everything that the world sees a tree as. This is a reminder for you to grow inwards, nourish your roots – cultivate your intuitions, listen to that inner voice. Societal definitions of “success” is a facade. It changes every day. What truly stays is your self-awareness, your spiritual growth. You are here to shine, and you do and you will – brighter than ever – so make sure it is through learning and meditating, sitting in silence, through prayers and most importantly, with your never-ending spirit to work hard. What the world sees is only mere water surface, dwell deeper and deeper, and deeper. For a building to be as tall as a Burj Khalifa, it must have a foundation underground just the same length. One can easily become a boat and sail, but for you to be the ship that crosses gigantic oceans – you need the depth, you need the core strength. Nonetheless, don’t forget that life in itself is an incredible gift of nature – you’re a living being, breathing, moving, creating – isn’t that something to nurture after all? Grow your roots stronger. Dwell deeper. Float in the open waters. Be your own light. Shine like the sun. #Birthday #NoteToSelf

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Of Unreasonable Optimism | Stuti Ashok Gupta

Dear you,

Sometimes in life, you’d catch yourself dipped in unreasonable optimism – while there may not be a reason to explain why you feel positive about something that seems completely hopeless to others – don’t let yourself believe that unreasonable is equivalent to unrealistic, because they are not the same.

You are not delusional, if you see abundance is everything offered to you. In fact, the truth of life that most enlightened minds figured out (as I understand) is that this is a transaction with the universe almost like you pay for something and it gives something to you that you wish or is good for you – and the currency is not money here.

The real currency is gratitude. Count your blessings.

I may have said this a thousand times before, but I’d say it again. The phone you hold in your hand, the internet that runs this app, the air you breathe, the sun that shines, a pleasant smile exchanged with a stranger, or a simple moment of bliss as you lie in bed, covered in your quilt on a breezy December afternoon.

Every time you see this picturesque memory of Amsterdam, let it remind you of gratitude and gratitude alone. Will you?

#LettersToFindMe #BijnisWoman #Amsterdam #Netherlands #Europe #StutixEurope #Holland

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FIVE SIMPLE THINGS you can do to help someone while they are experiencing a panic or anxiety attack | Stuti Ashok Gupta

#MentalHealth  1. Give them a bottle of water to drink. Ask them to drink sip by sip. 2. And keep their phone away. A lot of stimulus to the brain kind of makes it worse. 3. And if you have anything sweet – mithai, chocolate, give them. 4. 20 times deep breaths. 5. Ask him to talk to you or someone who is there about what is he thinking about – just listen! (in continuation to the previous post) #Anxiety #Panic #AnxietyHealer

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Seek Help for Anxiety | Stuti Ashok Gupta

#MentalHealth

It takes roughly 10 years for an average person to seek help for their mental health condition – I read this a while ago. It compelled me to ask – what could be the possible reasons for that?

Maybe we don’t have enough professionals, we don’t have substantial awareness or a pool of resources to get yourself diagnosed. Or is it the stigma, that we associate with mental health?

Our society has a weird dichotomy – we are divided between those who would throw around words like “depression” and “anxiety” so carelessly, and those who suffer through it but keep hush. Sometimes we are both of them. We scream those words, perhaps not at the right spaces.

Sometimes sharing a story on social media about anxiety is a silent scream for help, but what do you really do about it after that? Does your anxiety archive in thin air after 24 hours too?

I don’t really know what to say, or tell you. But if you are someone who is constantly feeling worried or afraid, you feel you might die to a point that it can’t be logically explained – if your heart beat is fast and you feel shaky, and thoughts like something wrong is going to happen to you or your family repeatedly haunt you and no way you can stop them – please start observing yourself more carefully. These are only a handful of symptoms of anxiety listed here.

There are several other ways fear may crawl in – most often than not – unreasonable, start to notice your pattern. Are you able to handle it? What’s your most common response to it? Please note – DO NOT SELF-DIAGNOSE YOURSELF. Just observe. & if you think that it is a condition that feels out of your hand, for a really long time – and if you think your symptoms were present most of the days in the last 6 months – and they interfere with your daily functioning – your work, your relationship, etc – PLEASE SEEK OUT FOR HELP.

Imagine if you had a pain in your shoulder for 6 months – what would you do? Would you give yourself excuses? Yes, we don’t have enough professionals, but there are multiple methods that can help you – do not start to accept it as a part of your life. Seek help, please. Also, kindly share if someone needs to read this. #Anxiety

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Social Media is a Tool | Stuti Ashok Gupta

“STOP TAKING SOCIAL MEDIA SERIOUSLY – IT IS A TOOL – USE IT” I have a bunch of friends who find MY @instagram a bit annoying because it’s way too sugary and positive for them. 1 or 2 of them have even opted to not follow me. I keep telling them that “you take it way too seriously”. I strongly believe that social media is simply a tool, to connect with thousands of minds – to sometimes feel inspired by the million possibilities of living a life apart from what we see around us regularly. Social media is a tool to talk about what you feel, what you think – sometimes to be validated, sometimes to be condemned – regardless, you learn so much! It is not exactly for the number of likes, comments, shares and so on – it is truly for the quality of it. When I first published my book at 21 – Sublimation (a collection of poems), those poems in fact were picked up from my Facebook statuses that I wrote for 2 years, when I lived in Kerala. Every time I wrote a poem, and I received a feedback – even if it was as simple as a grammatical error – I instantly improved. So I got better. I found @pranitart to design my book cover, and even my editor was someone I knew through FB. There have been so many other instances (apart from my book) I can think of when social media was instrumental: 1. I conducted 4 Art Festivals at @thelosttribehostels by just creating @facebook event pages. 2. @amrutamofficial is a family of 15,000 members through Newsletters via @mailchimp. 3. My traveling has been full of adventures, because you guys are the best source for super amazing tips/recommendations – from food, to stay to even what song I listen to on loop. Hampta Pass was one of the best recco I recieved this year, and it wouldn’t have been possible without you. @halomellow and I were clueless! 4. I found so many creators – for photos, videos, designs for Amrutam, including @nainaayurveda who makes brilliant @youtube videos, and @_surreal__ who manages Amrutam IG now. 5. I have been learning UkeLele from random IG + YT videos! There must be at least 100 other stories I can tell – but the point I’m trying to make is – IT IS A TOOL, use it like that. Use it for your growth! 📸 @kyabc

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Adiós November, Hola December | Stuti Ashok Gupta | 2019

 🌟 – With three insane relapses to sickness, working in my own little cave, I passed this month at one place – can you imagine how itchy my feet are at this point? Anywhoooo, so many new things are churning up, and I can’t wait to share all of it with you. 1. First thing first – We are launching this new @amrutamofficial video tomorrow where @halomellow and I, quiet impulsively, agreed to be in front of the camera. It was definitely fun to work with @visionofgap as always, but at the same time, it was pretty challenging for me to direct the video and act at the same time. I’m so nervous about you all seeing it. Hope you like it! We’ve tried to depict how Amrutam is “for every kind of woman”, a campaign that took birth during one of those conversations that last long long hours – & the super talented @jasminekaurchandla has curated and sung the voiceover beautifully! 2. I’ll be going on my annual family trip to South India, but this time, I decided to do it on my birthday, which is slightly earlier than the usual time when we go to Tirupati. Last birthday I was in Nepal, & I didn’t have any network, and that allowed me to really gulp the fact that years are passing, I am growing and reflect on what is it that I truly seek more than ever. So, I wanted to continue to do that – stay absolutely in the moment, and be with the ones who are really present with me! There is no better place than Tirupati for me to do that! 3. I’m also going to be a speaker at an event, organised by a brand which is super close to everything that I resonate with – and it’s going to be an honor to be present there with some really really amazing people – prodigies of their own fields. 4. And then of course; there’s Christmas – no idea where I will be, but deep down, my inner child is craving to play Secret Santa this year. Not sure how I can do this, I really miss @ishanibadyal every Christmas because this girl’s the best at brightening and lighting up my world, and I can’t wait to see her! ❤️ You tell me, how was your November? What’s that one thing you’re looking forward to doing this December? #BijnisWoman #Journal #December

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Letter from Paris | Stuti Ashok Gupta

Dear you,

I am aware that you are a hopeless dreamer, and moreover, you are a fierce fighter despite all the bruises and wounds – you carry on cause you must. While there are 4 nights to exit this year, and enter year 2020 – think about all the stars you have tucked in your hair in these set of 365 days & nights, appreciate yourself on how each time you suffered and you managed to overcome it.

Pat your back for you have made it alive, as someone who has given it all to grow, and sometimes simply to keep up! You are full of energy, you are your happiest right now with all the Christmas decor and glitter on your feet, and you want this feeling to last, I know. But happiness is fleeting, my love. And so is sadness. Everything is temporary, except the flame of eternal bliss that burns inside – work on that, this new year. Make sure you keep your mind healthy, and give up on negative thinking (and if it is beyond your control, dear love – seek help).

Think about bliss as this muscle of “love” for self and others – it requires you to work out just like any other muscle – if you don’t practice love, can you really count on it to lift heavy weights? You definitely can’t compare your muscle growth with somebody else- so it’s needless to say that you are being silly if you want to love the way others do.

You have your own fingerprints inside the gloves of social expectations, cherish your own style. Love in your own way, and continue practising it. On days, when you feel you have had enough, you can’t give more than this – memorise this sunshine that falls on your shoulders through the December fog. Tell me, do you ever hear the sun complain?

It gives and gives and gives. It loves and loves and loves. Will you?

#LettersToFindMe #BijnisWoman #LettersToSelf #StutixEurope #Paris #Europe #France

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