I have thought about writing this a lot, and as I type this out – there are so many hurdles – the first one being, my mother is calling me for dinner and I am very hungry. Hunger after all is a hurdle for anything if you think about it. Depends what are you starving for. I met with bunch of Americans who had come along with Krishna Das [KD], and some of them were my age – we were sitting on the rocks in Mandakini River under the autumn sun, the water was flowing through us, and as we spoke about things, one of them said something remarkful, so I am going to quote her, as it perfectly fits here –
“In India, people’s stomachs are hungry, in America, our souls are hungry”
This observation is just incredible, no? We, Indians, are full of collectivism – families, kins, marriages, legacies, religious beliefs and social ideologies. We prioritise our cultural values – the groups we belong to – more than our individual needs. Mothers would give up anything for their children, and religious men would give up anything for their Gods. Social norms blind us, but faith unites us all. We have so many opportunities to feel associated with something or the other and a sense of belongingness is taken for granted because you can sign up for anything and you will be counted in. You walk outside your home and you know there will be something or someone that will leave you feeling connected.
I cannot comment on what is not primarily experienced by me [read: American Culture], but I can tell you what I have felt through conversations – it looks like a world full of resources, in abundance, with lesser people to share it with. Almost like the feeling of being lost and nobody’s bothering to find you. You’re on your own. There is freedom, but with a sense of loneliness. There is comfort, but lack of humane warmth.
I met Krishna Das [KD], for the first time, last year October . There is a long story to how I met him and through whom, so I’d write about it some other day [you can drop in a comment if you want me to write another blog about my first meeting with KD].
For now, I can tell you how I felt. It was no less than a dream that he came to my home and spent an entire day, singing with everyone, eating as my mother served and watching my father make jalebis. It was so simple and yet unimaginable, unbelievable and I usually run out of adjectives to describe my experience with him. While last year, I was still pinching myself to know for sure that I wasn’t dreaming, this year, when I met KD, it felt like this is the only real thing that I have experienced in my life – being with him is the closest I have been to hitting the reality [and of course, in a good way]. For the longest time I have tried to decode Ram Dass’s famous quote and also one of his books’ titles: BE HERE BE NOW
I experience that when I am with KD. I experience love – eternal, caught off guard and still secured.
We all deserve a share of the supreme principle. What is it after all? Intellects call it connected consciousness, literary scholars name it over soul, religions give it several names of Gods and goddesses – Ishwar, Allah, Jesus – and society weaves them stories in order for them to be passed on from generations to generations, and then we get lost in the stories instead of the messages it carried – we forget about the supreme principle, within which everything springs from, within which everything resides. Supreme principle that defines all of us as one, as a part of one. It is not us and them, us is not fighting them, us is fighting us. Isn’t that cancer? #thinking #tamilnaduView on Instagram https://ift.tt/2ZrFFYA
Sometimes in life, you’d catch yourself dipped in unreasonable optimism – while there may not be a reason to explain why you feel positive about something that seems completely hopeless to others – don’t let yourself believe that unreasonable is equivalent to unrealistic, because they are not the same.
You are not delusional, if you see abundance is everything offered to you. In fact, the truth of life that most enlightened minds figured out (as I understand) is that this is a transaction with the universe almost like you pay for something and it gives something to you that you wish or is good for you – and the currency is not money here.
The real currency is gratitude. Count your blessings.
I may have said this a thousand times before, but I’d say it again. The phone you hold in your hand, the internet that runs this app, the air you breathe, the sun that shines, a pleasant smile exchanged with a stranger, or a simple moment of bliss as you lie in bed, covered in your quilt on a breezy December afternoon.
Every time you see this picturesque memory of Amsterdam, let it remind you of gratitude and gratitude alone. Will you?
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FIVE SIMPLE THINGS you can do to help someone while they are experiencing a panic or anxiety attack | Stuti Ashok Gupta
It takes roughly 10 years for an average person to seek help for their mental health condition – I read this a while ago. It compelled me to ask – what could be the possible reasons for that?
Maybe we don’t have enough professionals, we don’t have substantial awareness or a pool of resources to get yourself diagnosed. Or is it the stigma, that we associate with mental health?
Our society has a weird dichotomy – we are divided between those who would throw around words like “depression” and “anxiety” so carelessly, and those who suffer through it but keep hush. Sometimes we are both of them. We scream those words, perhaps not at the right spaces.
Sometimes sharing a story on social media about anxiety is a silent scream for help, but what do you really do about it after that? Does your anxiety archive in thin air after 24 hours too?
I don’t really know what to say, or tell you. But if you are someone who is constantly feeling worried or afraid, you feel you might die to a point that it can’t be logically explained – if your heart beat is fast and you feel shaky, and thoughts like something wrong is going to happen to you or your family repeatedly haunt you and no way you can stop them – please start observing yourself more carefully. These are only a handful of symptoms of anxiety listed here.
There are several other ways fear may crawl in – most often than not – unreasonable, start to notice your pattern. Are you able to handle it? What’s your most common response to it? Please note – DO NOT SELF-DIAGNOSE YOURSELF. Just observe. & if you think that it is a condition that feels out of your hand, for a really long time – and if you think your symptoms were present most of the days in the last 6 months – and they interfere with your daily functioning – your work, your relationship, etc – PLEASE SEEK OUT FOR HELP.
Imagine if you had a pain in your shoulder for 6 months – what would you do? Would you give yourself excuses? Yes, we don’t have enough professionals, but there are multiple methods that can help you – do not start to accept it as a part of your life. Seek help, please. Also, kindly share if someone needs to read this. #Anxiety
I am aware that you are a hopeless dreamer, and moreover, you are a fierce fighter despite all the bruises and wounds – you carry on cause you must. While there are 4 nights to exit this year, and enter year 2020 – think about all the stars you have tucked in your hair in these set of 365 days & nights, appreciate yourself on how each time you suffered and you managed to overcome it.
Pat your back for you have made it alive, as someone who has given it all to grow, and sometimes simply to keep up! You are full of energy, you are your happiest right now with all the Christmas decor and glitter on your feet, and you want this feeling to last, I know. But happiness is fleeting, my love. And so is sadness. Everything is temporary, except the flame of eternal bliss that burns inside – work on that, this new year. Make sure you keep your mind healthy, and give up on negative thinking (and if it is beyond your control, dear love – seek help).
Think about bliss as this muscle of “love” for self and others – it requires you to work out just like any other muscle – if you don’t practice love, can you really count on it to lift heavy weights? You definitely can’t compare your muscle growth with somebody else- so it’s needless to say that you are being silly if you want to love the way others do.
You have your own fingerprints inside the gloves of social expectations, cherish your own style. Love in your own way, and continue practising it. On days, when you feel you have had enough, you can’t give more than this – memorise this sunshine that falls on your shoulders through the December fog. Tell me, do you ever hear the sun complain?
It gives and gives and gives. It loves and loves and loves. Will you?
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